No really?!

What the hell are you doing with that person!


Ok, ok, I understand that we meet people and sometimes there is something about them that allows or enables you to look past some of there flaws and appreciate how the person treats you or how they make you feel or a list of other things. At some point however, you/we have to take a step back and look at the person for who they are can think about the long term. Yea, he is cool to party with and drink with but the nigga can't keep a job! He's a cool guy, but he doesnt have a high school diploma or a GED and he's 27! He has always been grind'n and on the block, and sees no reason to stop now!


What the fuck are you going to do with that long term?! If he hasn't seen the benefits of having a diploma or GED in the last 7 years enough to motivate him to get on his shit, what can he do for you? How can he motivate you to better yourself? How much of an active partner can he be in building a long term future? Given that we live in a credential society what does one with no credentials do?!


He can't keep a job? I don't even know why I have to speak to this one. It should be obvious! The reality of life is most things cost something and if he doesn't have steady employment he can't be relied on for various things in the long run. What type of partnership do you build with someone that can't contribute?! Of course I always have at least one friend that is like "well, I don't need his/her money. I make my own money. " That is great, but the reality is at some point you are going to get tired of caring the financial weight of the relationship, no matter what.


Lastly he is on the block? What the fuck is that going to do for you, really? He is not paying into social security. He doesn't have a IRA, a pension, a 401K...nothing What the fuck are you going to do 20/30 years down the road? At some point he is going to get locked up, come on now!


I hope these are extreme examples but the point I am trying to articulate is step your game up. Sit down and really evaluate who you are, and evaluate the things you want to do and the person you want to be and find someone that compliments you. Someone that motivates you to be a better person. We are only as good as the company we keep!